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Jan. 19th, 2009

Sunday Night Status Report

What a week!  I've really had my hands full.

I have surrendered to the reality that I cannot work today, so I'm choosing to enjoy the three-day weekend instead.  I've gotten a good bit done, and I'm kind of pleased with myself, I must say.  Hopefully, I can finish up the little things I have to do this evening with enough time to read a little before bed.

My status in brief:

1. Love Under New Management.  I've been doing a lot of introspection with the help of my romance coach, who is awesome!  She and I are on the same wavelength, and she really understands where I'm coming from and how I came to be there, which a huge plus.  I do have a confession to make, though.  Since I'm doing all this introspection, looking back over the relationships of my past, I'm on a hiatus from dating.  Not that anyone's asking (well, one person, but he's reappearing after a two-month silence, so I'm not counting him).  But it feels good to have a reason to give people for not dating.  It's nice to be able to tell people I don't want to go out with that I'm taking a break from dating altogether.  I'll have to ask about how I should be dealing with those people I don't want to go out with.  There seem to have been a few of them lately, and that perspective is probably something else I should be working on.

2. The War on Clutter.  I have cleaned my kitchen.  The only thing I have left to do is wash the plastic pitchers I use for water, tea and juice, and then I'll wipe down the floor of the refrigerator.  I didn't think this would be such a big job, and I was just plain wrong.  First, I cleaned out the freezer, which was just crammed with stuff I had forgotten.  I put all the frozen plastic containers of leftovers into my sink, threw out most of the ice cream (I kept some mango sorbet), and trashed some ancient chicken.  There is a bottle of Jack Daniels on the door in a brown paper bag.  Jack is the preferred beverage of a particular fellow who had been coming by quite regularly at one point.  I myself do not drink it, so I put it in the freezer in between visits.  I told him not to forget it, but now that he has, I consider it abandoned property.  I guess I can use it for cooking.  And I hate to throw it out since it's nearly full.  

As the frozen containers slowly thawed in my sink, I dove into the refrigerator.  A lot of that stuff had to go.  I think I had three jars of mayo (I don't like it, so I don't keep it on hand, so I buy a new one when I need it for cooking).  I had a lot of orphaned sticks of butter and margarine that had been there an awfully long time.  I had some ancient onions, packets of condiments, fossilized takeout.  A few months ago, I was struggling with a sudden loss of appetite.  It was pretty bad.  I would go for some days and only eat once.  I just wasn't hungry.  I had made myself a chicken dish a long time ago in the crock pot, hoping that the pleasant fragrance and my favorite ingredients would stimulate my appetite, but then I didn't eat any of it, and it had been taking up space there ever since, until I finally threw it out with the rest of the relics.

Now the fridge is bare, its white interior glaring at me.  I have a bottle of white rum, a dozen eggs, one container each of butter, margarine, mustard, whipped cream (Dinner of Singles) and parmesan cheese.  There's a loaf of bread and several half-empty bottles of wine, which I can't drink because my meds disagree with it.  It sounds like a lot now that I'm writing this, but it's not, really.

The pantry is another story.  I gathered up all the canned goods, the spice jars and the rest of it and actually got it into the pantry.  I've got a real blessing there -- a pantry so full I can barely get new things into it.  I thanked God for it and kept going.

I washed all the plastic containers (quite a job), wiped down all the surfaces (the dishwasher was quite an undertaking), and replaced the containers and pots and pans in the proper homes.  What do you know?  My kitchen is bigger than I thought.  

The bathroom is next.  I'm getting rid of that vinyl shower curtain liner in favor of a fabric one (they're machine washable!) and right now, that whole area is in a transitional phase, so hopefully I can at least get the bathtub done tonight.  I actually thought I'd be done with the whole apartment by now.  I need to work on giving myself smaller, more manageable steps.

3. The Debt Snowball.  Readers, I am pleased to announce that I made my last car payment this weekend.  For a moment, I thought I was going to cry.  Those of you who have done this know what I mean.  I'll need a handkerchief when the title finally gets here.

I'm still chewing nails over having to work tomorrow, but I think I'll be able to follow storeetllr's suggestion and take a few minutes to watch the swearing-in and catch the rest on the evening news.  Maybe I can find a public venue here in Richmond, too, but that's not really a Richmond thing.  If there is such a thing as that here, I guarantee that no one knows about it.  Which brings us to ...

4. Relocation.  I fired off my application to the FBI.  What the hell, right?  They didn't want a writing sample or any references (yet), so it wasn't any trouble.  I also discovered that I ordered one of my transcripts during my last semester, with the result that it does not contain my last semester's grades.  I've been using that transcript since I graduated, which is almost 12 years ago, and I just noticed this.  But don't worry.  I ordered an official copy.  I had to laugh.  I wonder what my grades are really like.

5. Thinking Sideways.  This class continues to deliver!  I'm getting sooo much good information, and my writing is really going places it's never gone before.  I can't wait to see what comes next now.

It's really starting to get interesting.

JB

Jan. 16th, 2009

Irony of the Highest Caliber

I missed my post on Sunday to share my status with you all, but I will be back to report later this weekend, I promise.

I just wanted to pop in for a second to share with you ... (fanfare) ... Irony of the Highest Caliber!

Ready?  

I'm a temp by day, so I get paid by the hour.  December is not a happy time for my bank account, because I don't work the holidays, and if I don't work, I don't get paid.  This past Monday, we found out for the first time this year that the office would be closed on Monday coming, the 19th, which is Martin Luther King Day.  (I'm almost positive that the office was open last year, but that is neither here nor there.)  Taking Monday off is a problem for me on two fronts; I won't get paid for King Day, and because of that, I won't be able to take Tuesday off to watch the inauguration on TV.  I just can't afford to lose two days' pay, and making up 16 extra hours is next to impossible.

So the irony is: I may have to work through the inauguration of this country's first black president ... because I'm being forced to take King Day off.

Irony like that is priceless, I think, and must be celebrated.

See you later this weekend.
JB

Jan. 5th, 2009

Sunday Night Status Report

I know it's Monday.  Work with me.

I am pleased to report that things are already moving smoothly toward achievement of my goals.  In fact, things are starting to drop into place with very little intervention from me -- so I know I'm headed down the right road.

1. The War on Clutter
I went downstairs on Sunday and sat in the car with a garbage bag.  I put all the trash into the bag (I really need to get a handle on my fast food habit, but that is not one of this year's goals) and even spray-cleaned some of the more problematic parts of the car.  My cupholder, for instance, is beneath the radio and holds the cups in front of a little well, which I guess is designed to hold change.  That little well was absolutely disgusting.  I sprayed it with some lavender-scented cleaner (method, which I love) and let it sit there for a while before wiping it out.  

Once the car was empty, I dragged all six garbage bags of clothes downstairs and put them into the car.  Five went to Goodwill; the sixth is filled with bed linens and will go to help homeless cats this winter.  When I came home, I found that I had forgotten the hat I mentioned two posts ago, the pretty one, still in its hatbox, never worn once.  The sight of the box squeezed my heart a little.  It looked so forlorn there, something unwanted that had never been given a chance.  I knew that if it stayed another night in the house, I'd never give it away, and it couldn't stay here.  Bad relationship energy haunted it.  I took it right downstairs to the car and drove it to Goodwill.  When I gave the hatbox to the attendant, I told him, "It's brand new.  Never worn once."  I almost asked him to be careful, but then I got hold of myself.

He just smiled and took it to the trailer.  I watched him put the box on top of a crate there and reminded myself that it was going to someone who would really love it.

It's never just things.

2. Love Under New Management
I talked to the romance coach last week and was very pleased.  She's already helped me put my romance history into context, and that was a real eye-opener.  We decided on her ongoing coaching package, which costs $300.  I told myself I would come up with the money.

My father gave me $200 for Christmas, and I applied that to the total.  The night after my first conversation with my coach, I returned home to find a $50 rebate from my cell phone company.  Tonight, I received a check from a publishing company for some editing work I did for them eons ago.  The check is for $21.  So I'm really only paying $29 dollars -- a little under 10% -- out of my own pocket.

That's pretty powerful stuff.  Thank you, God.

3. Relocation
My job is terrific.  The money's good, the hours are flexible, and I do not take my work home with me.  I know what I have, so I haven't really been looking for another job.  This one is doing everything I need a job to do for me right now.

But I am trying to move.  When I get to my new home, wherever that is, I can't count on finding this same job.  That's something I've been struggling with.

Today, out of the blue, the guy I sit next to at work told me about a writing job for the federal government that sounds right up my alley.  The money is even better, and I'd have to move to either D.C. or West Virginia.  West Virginia has gotten a bad rap, I think.  There are some really nice places there.  And honestly, there aren't many places I'd rule out right now.  I really need to get out of Richmond.

I'll apply for it.  The way things have been coming together lately, who knows what could happen?

4. Thinking Sideways
This class is incredible.  Using Holly Lisle's techniques, a story idea basically manifested for me this morning.  It's not like any idea I've ever had before, and I'm really excited about it.

I am also taking the Two Year Novel 2009 class on Forward Motion (because I'm crazy, I guess), and I'm looking forward to working with an idea I've been turning over for years.

5. The Debt Snowball
I managed to roll all my credit card balances into one place, with a terrific rate, that lies directly in the path of the snowball.  Very pleased.

This is going to be good!

Jan. 4th, 2009

Today's Reason for Leaving Richmond

I made plans with my mom to see Frost/Nixon while I was with her for the Christmas holiday.  I had been on pins and needles to see it; I'm a former news reporter, and I think reporters of my era have a soft spot for all things Nixon.  So I knew from my intense study of the trailers that Frost/Nixon was supposed to be "everywhere" on Christmas Day.

Well, friends, it wasn't everywhere.  It still isn't here in this cultural vacuum.  It is, however, in Williamsburg, an hour's drive from here.

Now, if I wanted to see one of the many masterful works of cinema featuring those great artists Vince Vaughn or Jennifer Aniston, I wouldn't have any trouble.  They're all over this place.  Not Frost/Nixon, though.  I presume that the distributors do not think we have the necessary brainpower to manage something like that here in Richmond.  I bet Valkyrie only made the cut because of the explosions.

My next home will be somewhere the movie distributors consider for limited releases.

And another thing.  I am done with these movie awards shows as long as all the nominations go to movies no one has been able to see yet.

Jan. 1st, 2009

Rocky Balboa and the 2009 Goals

Today I did something I didn't think was possible.  Today I pulled four garbage bags of clothes out of my closet.  Four big black garbage bags designed for lawn clippings and leaves.  They're stacked up right behind the couch as I write this.  They're going to be there for a while, too.  See, I can't get them into the car until I clean the car out.

I guess I didn't notice how congested the closet really was until I started pulling clothes out.  You would think that with all that gone, the closet would seem empty, but it doesn't.  Now it just looks a little more comfortable.

I went through it pretty quickly, tossing things I hadn't worn or just didn't like into the bags without thinking that much.  I had things in there with the tags still on them, things I knew had been back there for years.  There's not anything wrong with them; they're just not my style.  Those were easy to get rid of because I know they're likely to go to a good home.  They'll look good on somebody.

I found redundant items: multiple pairs of khakis, sweatshirts in great excess, a frightening number of T-shirts.  I kept most of my little black dresses, but I was surprised by how many I have.  I found a lot of cute little sundresses that used to be my style but aren't any more.  There were a few things I remember wearing to my first couple of jobs.  For the first time, I realized just how long that stuff has been in there.  I started working right out of high school, almost 20 years ago.

I also found quite a few artifacts from Relationships of the Past in my closet.  Last year, at my annual birthday tarot reading, my reader told me that the presence of these artifacts in my bedroom closet was spreading sadness and grief through the romantic area of my life.  All of that had to go, she said.  Pictures of friends and family had to go, too, but they could be relocated to other parts of the house.  I thought I had gotten rid of everything, but today I ran across a receipt for a gift I gave an ex, a beautiful hat given to me by an ex (still in its hatbox, never worn even once), some things from high school, and some things I bought while on trips with still another ex.  I am pleased to report that all that stuff is now out of the bedroom closet.  Maybe we will start to see some improvement in my love life.

Speaking of which, I've e-mailed a romance coach who specializes in helping singles with online dating.  She e-mailed me back today -- and I am always impressed when someone contacts me for business on a holiday -- and I'm looking forward to corresponding with her more in the future.  She didn't back away from the horror show that is my relationship history, and I'm encouraged by that.


This is all pretty exciting so far!  I can actually see progress already.

Right now, I'm sitting in front of the New Year's Rocky marathon on American Movie Classics.  I just love the Rocky movies.  Even the last two.  The more I watch them, the more I think about the larger themes buried in the stories.  I hope for the kind of relationship Rocky has with Adrian.  Each of them knows, reveres and deeply loves the absolute truth about the other.  Partnerships like that are rare and valuable.

Happy New Year 2009

Hello neighbors!

Welcome to my blog on Project 10/10/10, my mid-thirties do-over.  My plan, if you can call it that, is to relocate from Richmond, Virginia to a location to be determined soon, at some point between right now and October 10, 2010 (hence 10/10/10).  I'll be posting updates here for those interested and for my own accountability, and it might be interesting to see what kind of progress I'm making.

Before I get into who I am, I want to set down my goals for the year.  

1. Clear the clutter from my little home, using Peter Walsh's book, It's All Too Much, as a reference.

2. Clear consumer debt, using Dave Ramsey's Debt Snowball.

3. Exact my revenge on eHarmony.com by getting serious about online dating at some other site.  eHarmony.com rejected me some time ago, and I'm still mad.  

4. Complete Holly Lisle's How to Think Sideways course.

5. Identify the target location for Project 10/10/10.

I'm going to get the show on the road tomorrow -- I mean, later today.

Happy New Year!
JB

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